Stage Rage: The Secret Jealousy Speakers Don’t Admit (And How to Turn It Into Bookings)

Be honest: have you ever watched someone on your dream stage and thought,
“Seriously? That should be me.”

Welcome to Stage Rage—like road rage, but with more glitter and fewer brakes.

You know the scenes:

• You’re cruising along the highway of life when—whoosh—another speaker cuts you off. They’re on your dream stage, delivering your message (with too much PowerPoint animation), and you’re gripping the emotional steering wheel thinking: “I could do that better blindfolded.”
  
  
• You’re stuck behind the slowest talk ever. Forty-five minutes, zero substance. Meanwhile you’ve got a powerful message, a killer Signature Talk… and it feels like you’re crawling in the slow lane.
  
  
• The roundabout from hell: you keep circling the same draft, second-guessing every word, stuck in “will-they-like-me?” instead of taking the exit to “Booked & Brilliant.”
  
  

The Truth About Stage Rage (It’s Not What You Think)

That bubbling frustration?
That twinge when someone else holds a mic you know you could own?
That WHY ISN’T IT ME moment?

That’s not ugliness. It’s intelligence.
It’s your inner sat nav saying: “Recalculating route. Destination: Dream Stage.”

Translation: your ambition is alive and well. It’s honking to remind you—
You’re meant to be up there, too.

From Jealousy to Jet Fuel: Reframe It

Use Stage Rage as data, not drama. Ask:

1. What exactly am I jealous of? (The stage? The audience? The clarity? The bookings?)
   
   
2. What gap is it revealing? (Positioning, message, signature story, call-to-action?)
   
   
3. What’s my next high-leverage move? (Refine the talk? Pitch the stage? Publish a speaker page?)
   
   

Clarity turns envy into a roadmap.

Build the Talk, Not the Tantrum

You don’t slam the brakes. You don’t yell at the windscreen. You ship.

Here’s a 5-step “Fast Lane” to move now:

1. Name your stage. Write down three dream stages (specific events, podcasts, or companies). Specificity unlocks action.
   
   
2. Pinpoint your edge. Finish this sentence: “Most speakers say ___, but I show audiences ___.” That’s your perspective shift.
   
   
3. Lock your spine. Craft a 3-part arc (Problem → Perspective Shift → Path). One promise, one story, one CTA.
   
   
4. Proof your promise. Add a transformation story with a timestamp and a number. (“In 30 days, X; after one workshop, Y.”)
   
   
5. Warm pitch weekly. Every Friday, send two pitches: one warm intro, one direct inquiry. Track in a simple sheet. Momentum is math.
   
   

The Vehicle That Gets You There

Your story is your superpower.
Your Signature Talk is the vehicle.
When it’s crafted right, it’ll take you places no amount of envy ever could.

So buckle up, lovely. Let’s put Stage Rage in the rearview—and get you in the speaker’s seat.

Tell me the stage you’re dreaming of, and I’ll help you map the route.

Subtle CTA (non-salesy, high intent)

Want to turn Stage Rage into stage bookings?
Share your top 3 dream stages and your current talk title. I’ll suggest one positioning tweak and one audience-specific pitch angle you can use this week.